1. Zine making has officially started!!! Deadline is May 10, and distribution begins June . If we’ve reblogged you, you *might* be hearing from us soon. Please reblog and inbox us if you want to get involved. <3

     

  2. New Study On Sexual Aggression Says What We’ve Been Saying All Along

    But man, it still feels vindicating, doesn’t it?

    NPR reports:

    When researchers at the University of Toronto and the University of Washington observed young people’s behavior in bars, they found that the man’s aggressiveness didn’t match his level of intoxication. There was no relationship.

    Instead, men targeted women who were intoxicated.

    The researchers hired and trained 140 young adults to go into bars in the Toronto area and note every incident of aggression they saw. They found that 25 percent of all incidents involved sexual aggression. And 90 percent of the victims of sexual aggression were women being harassed by men.

    And Feministing says:

    So contrary to the myth put forth by everything from Robin Thick’s song “Blurred Lines” to Wall Street Journal writer James Taranto‘s claim that drunken sexual assault is akin to “two drunk drivers…in a collision,” sexual aggression does not just happen because people get drunk and confused. Alcohol is a tool, not a root cause. The study’s author, Kate Graham, says, ”People should stop believing that [Robin Thicke] song. The lines really aren’t that blurred.” An predators know what they’re doing. “If you walk through a bar and grab a woman’s breasts and then disappear into the crowd, that’s probably not a misunderstanding,” Graham says. “You don’t actually think that she wants you to do that.”

    The reason this is so important is that the way we understand these dynamics has real-world consequences for how we approach preventing sexual violence. The myth that drunk victims gave off “mixed signals” underpins some of the worst victim blaming and outright rape denialism we see regularly. And, as we’ve discussed extensively on this blog, since predators knowingly look for the most vulnerable-seeming potential victims, “rape prevention” efforts that focuses on telling individual women how to decrease their personal risk are inadequate. As Alexandra’s said before, “Until we create real systemic change, anyone’s individual efforts to not be [the drunkest person in the room] don’t actually reduce rates of violence.”

     

  3. Me a couple days every month

     

  4. emilygould:

    Last night after the No Regrets event I took the F home and there were two incredibly drunk guys in my car, middle-aged white guys in button-down shirts, not young fratty bros. They were hugging a pole in the middle of the crowded car, talking to each other loudly, moving unsteadily, slurring…

     

  5. "No one is a slut. “Slut” is a made-up word to keep women from having as much fun as men. A person who enjoys sex is just a person and a person who is a virgin is also just a person and everyone should lay off each other’s sex lives. Retire the word “slut” please."
    — 20 Things We Need To Stop Talking About In 2013 (via stay-ocean-minded)

    (Source: maarkhoppus, via feminismordeath)

     
  6. That is all.

    (Source: prismcess, via sanityscraps)

     
  7. Role model.

    (Source: bussykween, via nitoriaiichirou)

     

  8. "People are saying that I am not actually remembering what I remember. People are saying that my ‘evil mother’ brainwashed me because they refuse to believe that my sick, evil father would ever molest me, because we live in this society where victim blaming and inexcusable behavior – this taboo against shaming the famous at the expense of their victims – is accepted and excused."
    — 

    Dylan Farrow

    We believe you.

     

  9. "The violence we teach our sons in teaching them to Be Men is the same that keeps us up at night worrying about our daughters."
    — 

    (via moeyhashy)

    yes. yes. yes. yes. yes.

    (via postwhitesociety)

    oh. oh yeah.

    (via polycule)

    (via chloe-iris)

     

  10. 16 ways to talk about consent

    1. 1. "Do you like when I...?"
    2. 2. "I like when you..."
    3. 3. "Will you...?"
    4. 4. "How does this feel?"
    5. 5. "Do you want me to...?"
    6. 6. "Do you want to...?"
    7. 7. "Is there anything you want to try?"
    8. 8. "Show me what you like."
    9. 9. "Do you want to go further?"
    10. 10. "Do you want to stop?"
    11. 11. "Can I...?"
    12. 12. "Does this feel good?"
    13. 13. "Are you happy?"
    14. 14. "Are you comfortable?"
    15. 15. "Are you having a good time?"
    16. 16. "Is this good for you?"